You must keep in mind that a recovered traumatic memory does not make for a multiple. And the physical discomfort that a person may be experiencing could simply relate to a troubled past filled with stress and anxiety without being multiple. We all know that when we are under a certain amount of stress that our bodies may suffer as a result with headaches, shoulder and neck pains, heart trouble etc. But, as of yet there is no set guideline for the treatment of D.I.D. that the psychological community has agreed upon, plus there is still the question of whether this disorder can really exist within that community.
However, all one needs to do is talk to the survivors who have resorted to this method of survival and created their own system (a defense mechanism) to truly believe that they are indeed suffering. Because the treatment for D.I.D. is still undetermined, there is no particular method that can be absolutely duplicated to fit each survivor and their systems. However I believe that a basic guideline can be followed for every survivor with D.I.D. I have done quite a bit of experimenting and research during my healing and below are some ideas that have helped me through the process.
Reflexology is the method of stimulating reflexes of the foot, hand or ear that correspond to each gland, organ and other body parts. Stimulation of these reflexes serves to relax and normalize all functions of the body in order to promote a natural balance and revitalization.
The Reflexology charts show what part of the feet, hands and ears that you can apply pressure to and massage to relieve aches and pains. I refer to my Reflexology Atlas often to find what point of my hand or ear to apply pressure to for (stomach pains, headaches, neck aches, knee pain or shoulder tension; just to name a few).
When you learn the correct pressure point that matches the body part, you can learn to do the treatment yourself on your hands, ears or head. The feet would be quite awkward to perform on yourself.
The 3 in 1 combo Reflexology chart above lets you see the pressure points of the hands, feet and ear. The chart is from AboutReflexology.org and used with permission. Please do not save, copy, download or link to this Reflexology chart from my website. You must visit AboutReflexology.org
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Visit "About Reflexology" to purchase reading material and products to help with your relflexology experiance. Also, see the interactive Reflexology chart
and run your mouse over the hand and foot charts to read what body parts match each pressure point.
Painting and drawing are also extremely useful, especially to bring forth the recovered memories that are just too horrific to express the intensity of an episode with mere words. You might even surprise yourself and find that your talents are much more advanced than you ever dreamed they were.
Art used as therapy has successfully helped people with anxiety, depression, PTSD, chronic pain, cancer, D.I.D., bipolar disorder, and other serious health conditions. It can improve lives by helping people improve their mental, emotional, and even physical states.
A Journal can be a tremendous tool. After an alter has documented a memory, thought or emotion then you and other alters can go back and read it. This begins to break down the barriers that have kept the alter personalities segregated and amnesiac to each other. The information that is being shared now within the system starts to trigger other alters memories as they learn about and meet each other within the pages of the journal.
You might even find yourself writing poetry or short stories or even building your own web site; which could even enhance the healing process (but let's just take this a step at a time for now). Remember, the more you write (whether it's in a journal, poetry or just jotting down notes on a piece of paper); the more you will learn about yourself and your alters. Who knows, writing could actually be your "calling"!
Learning how to build a healthy support system can be beneficial in so many ways. When you begin to attract healthier people into your life, you are "learning" how to be a friend in a healthy way.
The toxic people are the ones who feel better about their own self at your expense (such as sarcasm, laughing at, making fun of and embarrassing you) will now begin to lose their power as you learn from your new healthy friends how to reject negative input from others. You are much better off with the new (respectful, caring) friends who can build up your self-esteem and treat you with the respect that your "spirit" thrives on.
Of course, like I have said, "every multiple will respond differently to any guideline just as non-multiples respond different with any treatment". The most important thing to remember as you go through your journey to a healthier mental state is to stay safe!
My own personal feelings are that "Healing" does not mean integration. To heal is to be healthy and happy, and eventually your alter personalities may indeed decide to take that final step into wholeness.
As I have healed and integrated, now fifteen years later, I can see how my choice to stay neutral on the "integration" subject actually helped me to heal quicker because it was just one of those added thoughts that I did not need to focused on and in the end we did integrate gradually without any fan fair or special occasion to mark the time. It just
By: Candy Little